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Love and attraction

Difference Between Love And Attraction

LOVE is the simplest and most cherished human feeling. Have you ever wondered what love truly feels like? You can answer “YES”! We’ve seen a lot of love romances and films where the idea of love has been explored. You are mistaken, my friend, in thinking that it is love. In contrast to these tales and films, love is something else. 

“When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily.”

Whoever understands this, embraces life.

Although it happens frequently, mental, intellectual, and spiritual connections are rare.

A bundle of feelings characterized by affection, passion, closeness, and commitment is known as love. It entails tenderness, intimacy, protection, joy, excitement, fulfillment, and trust. Most of the time, people mistake LOVE and ATTRACTION. Attraction is the sentiment of liking someone, particularly physically or in terms of their appearance or behavior. Understanding the difference between love and attraction in today’s society is important. It’s not necessary to be in love with someone to feel attached to them. You experience this because you do not separate between attraction and love. Here’s how to tell the difference between attraction and love- 

1. Self-worth vs Happiness 

When you are attracted to someone, you want to be with them until you can no longer maintain your attraction. Having that person in your life raises issues of self-worth, which is the worst thing. However, after a while your interest in that individual begins to fade because you already have them.  On the other hand, when you fall in love with someone, you want them to be yours blissfully. Your satisfaction is not the primary concern. You are completely committed to wanting that person in your life.

2. Wanting vs. Offering

You get more possessive when you are attracted to someone. The unseen link between attraction, fulfillment, resentment, possessiveness, and the dread of losing your mate is the cause.  But if you really love someone, you don’t look for anything in return. Giving selflessly, whether out of love or self-sacrifice, is the key. The partner’s satisfaction is always prioritized.

3. Victory vs. Surrendering

In contrast to pure love, attraction is frightening. The only thing that counts in your life when you are attracted to someone is winning them over. You want to keep that person with you at any cost, regardless of someone’s wishes.  However, if you are truly in love, you will let her go if necessary and allow their destiny to unfold naturally. There won’t be any excessive pressure from you.

4. Permanent hatred vs Momentary displeasure

Love shines in a variety of things and can improve you as a person. However, there is a second truth. Hatred is the emotion most similar to love. Your affection for someone will eventually evolve into unreasonable hatred once you break up with them.  In the case of attraction, you don’t feel like hating someone after a breakup. You will experience brief, depressing emotions like worry, sadness, irritability, and frustration, but not hatred.

5. Limits vs. Limitless

Last but not least, real endurance is another distinction between attraction and love. While the attraction is only present for a little period of time, love never passes away or fades in reality.  What transpires, at first sight, is a big attraction. But love develops gradually. While love takes time to develop, attraction can occur at any hour of the day. It’s “attraction” rather than “love” that you feel when you first meet someone. While desire might easily go away, love is pure. You might claim that you are drawn to someone because of their beauty, ability, personality, character, or fortune, but love is more than that. Love is about doing all in your power to make the other person happy. In contrast, attraction is all about meeting your wants and feeling good about yourself.

While attraction is all about physical affection, love is all about a profound connection. As the love is deep yet the desire is fleeting. In other words, attraction is a necessary component of love, but it is not a need.