A Ship in port is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for – Grace Hopper
Every relationship starts with attraction then chasing and finally getting into a relationship. Over a period of time, the conflicts are bound to happen over small things leading to misunderstandings that make it difficult to get on the same page with a partner. Generally, conflicts occur between partners because expectations aren’t being met. Instead of seeing the conflict that is damaging your relationship, why don’t we take this as an opportunity to deal and grow in a relationship?
We’ve listed Tips to overcome these conflicts in a relationship that leads to growing together as a couple.
1. Acceptance
During an argument or conflict, try to keep one thing in mind that the other person has different experiences in the past and comes from different backgrounds. At the same time, try to convey a message that your experiences are different than them and you are trying to understand their situation well. This is the right way to accept your partner from where they are coming.
2. Patience
The best way to deal with any conflict is to control your language and anger in heat of moment situation. Stop at that moment, take a deep breath, take a break, and then get into the discussion when the situation is under control. That is an ideal way to deal respectfully.
3. Fewer Expectations
Couples do have expectations in a relationship, but an idea of low expectations will lead to a healthy relationship. Make sure you do not get disappointed by keeping high expectations from your partner and better you clarify another’s expectations to avoid conflicts.
4. Do not stretch over small stuff
Avoid creating a big mountain overall small stuff and holding a grudge that is not truly important. The best way to deal with this is to accept that every situation does not need reaction and disagreement shouldn’t convert into arguments. This doesn’t mean that you must always argue, rather sensibly put your views.
5. Accept Response Positively
Once you’ve shared and expressed your opinions, accept their disagreements positively. Take their words and try to re-think from their point of view. This is how one can learn from a different angle of thought.
6. Do not argue to Win
Focus on being happy than being right. Couples tend to shout and use abusive language during an argument, this sounds disrespectful in the relationship. But once they accept the fact that it is not always about winning an argument. Try to keep each other happy with disagreements. That could be a challenging one though.
7. Communicate
Communication is the key in a relationship. Talk to your partner that what makes you upset instead of blaming them about they are doing wrong.
8. Past is gone
Once you both have agreed to a particular point, stick to it and make a point that this shouldn’t raise in the future. Leave all arguments in the past which must not be discussed in the future. This way there will be no baggage of conflicts getting carry forward.
Conflicts are surely distressing, but seeing this as an opportunity to deal quickly before it creates smoke. Dealing it positively will help you become closer and deepen your relationship.
